Picture this – you’ve been receiving an unending supply of texts from a man or woman that you are just not interested in. They keep wanting to know when you can meet for a date or to hang out. You think they’re sweet and a good person but just not the one for you. Despite the fact that you’re not interested, you don’t want to hurt their feelings. So, what do you do?
We understand where you’re coming from and how difficult it can sometimes be to let a man or woman you’re not mutually interested in know that there’s no future between the two of you. Rejection can be painful and totally demoralize the person on the receiving end. Sometimes, we say yes to people even though we would prefer to say no simply because we don’t want to make them feel bad. We put their feelings over our own, which can lead to many problems down the line.
It’s important to remember that it’s okay to say no to someone that you are not interested in. Of course, it can still be hard, and we often struggle to find a way to say no gracefully. We’ve put together a list of tips to help you let someone off easy without majorly hurting his confidence.
Let them know as soon as you’re sure
Often you know when things are working out right off the bat. Then there are times that require more patient consideration. If a man or woman is making romantic advances toward you but you don’t reciprocate their feelings – don’t lead them on. It will only give them the wrong idea and they will continue showering you with affection, whether or not you want it.
You can be nice about it and do your best to not hurt them but then leave them hanging in limbo. Or, you can be honest and explain your perspective, so they gets the point, even if it means that they have to swallow a little hurt to move on. Which would you rather choose? We suggest the latter. It is more effective and painless in the long run.
Imagine yourself in their place
How would you like it if they were the one rejecting you? Be sensitive. You can reject a person without coming off as a complete jerk. You don’t have to feel guilty for your lack of interest, but giving them the reason why lets the person know that their advances, while unreciprocated, were not unappreciated. Also, try to let them off without pointing out their personality faults and shortcomings. Keep it about you. You won’t be dealing a blow to their confidence this way and they’ll soon spring back to the dating game without doubting themselves.
Rejection is best served honest and firm. If the person refuses to get it the first time around, be consistent with your rejection the next time, too. Don’t doubt yourself and remember that you are not doing anything wrong. The last thing you want to do is send a person interested in you mixed signals.